Do you force yourself to feel good when you just don’t???

I have always believed that it’s extremely important to give yourself permission to feel ‘negative’ emotions. It amazes me when I hear people tell each other don’t hurt, doesn’t cry, doesn’t grieve, doesn’t be angry, doesn’t be jealous and so on. My question to you is – Why, the hell not??? If I have had a bad day, why should I deny myself, the right to feel miserable?? If I am hurt, why should I hide my feelings and put on a happy smile when it’s killing me on the inside?? Why should I not covet just because ‘the Lord said so?

It’s not fair and this is where the problem lies. We love to embrace everything good and happy about us but disown our shadow selves!!! We see light and darkness in complete isolation. What good is it to keep your feelings bottled inside? How does it help, to embrace the positive side of life and be completely oblivious to the ‘negatives’?

We have to understand that we can’t truly release the ‘negative’ unless we are willing to accept it first. It’s so important to allow yourself to feel all these emotions so you can finally release them and move on.

So, No! You don’t have to feel good when you just don’t and you don’t have to rid yourself of all your demons immediately.

Here’s why…

Because if you try too hard to shift your energy, you will just get frustrated as hell, and give up eventually. You have to honor where you are now and incrementally move towards a better-feeling space.

So, if you are feeling like crap now, admit it. If you feel like crawling into a dark corner, go ahead. Let yourself feel your feelings. Play around with different thoughts that provide a sense of relief, that take some of the pressure off.

Truly shifting our energy in any real way is not about simply ignoring and suppressing all of our negative thoughts and feelings, and then trying to think happy thoughts. That is just denial, and won’t get you very far!!!

Really let yourself feel what you are feeling because it creates a sense of relief.

This permission will help it flow more easily, and the easier it flows, the more quickly it can leave you. And that’s when the shift happens. That’s when you move out of your dark hole into the light because you are ready. You have acknowledged how you are feeling, dealt with your demons and realized it’s not working for you. so time to move on to happy emotions.

And it is in this moment you have shifted your energy, but in your own time, at your own terms and after having dealt with all that was going on inside. Don’t be scared of the negativity—we really can’t let something go until we embrace it!